You agreed to love your partner “for better or for worse,” but you never expected the “worse” to be quite this bad. A global pandemic, months of staying home, illness, homeschooling children, and possibly a job loss combine to put a lot of stress on a marriage. Even in ordinary times, it’s hard for marriages to survive multiple stressors. Given the many challenges families have faced since mid-March of 2020, it is no surprise that divorce attorneys expect the divorce rate to explode as restrictions are lifted on affected communities. If your marriage is among these casualties, talk to the Nathan Law Offices about protecting what matters most to you as you face the dissolution of your marriage.
If You Are Considering Divorce, You Are Not Alone
Difficult times often bring out the worst in people. The pandemic might make it clear to you that you no longer want to be married to this person. However, many of the stressors you are experiencing are temporary, so you should really think about your options before making the decision to file for divorce. In normal times, four of the most common causes of divorce are:
- Illness. As sad as it sounds, when one partner contracts a serious illness, it puts tremendous strain on a marriage. If one spouse was ill with COVID for weeks, it’s hard for the other spouse to avoid becoming resentful of caring for him and picking up the slack, especially if there are children. Sometimes, this resentment can be overcome with time and counseling.
- Job changes. Many people have lost their jobs during the pandemic, and others have moved their offices home. Both situations are stressful, but the pressure and uncertainty caused by a loss of income can bring a marriage to the breaking point.
- Children. The birth of a child is often a contributing cause of divorce because of the major changes it brings to a household. Some of the challenges are eased when kids start school, but with schools shutting down and parents faced with monitoring online school, the pressures are back and can drive a wedge between parents.
- Trauma. It takes a very committed and empathetic couple to survive a major trauma. Many people are experiencing trauma during the pandemic, whether it’s as a healthcare provider or frontline worker, or the loss of a close family member to the virus. Each partner may cope with trauma in a different way, and this can put them at odds with each other.
All of these factors, combined with forced togetherness, can simply be too much for a marriage to bear. It’s also possible that the potential for contracting a potentially fatal disease has forced you to examine your life and decide to make a change for the better. Whatever the reason is for wanting to end your marriage, you should talk to a divorce attorney before taking any other steps.
Don’t Split Up for the Wrong Reasons
We have given numerous consultations for divorce since the beginning of the pandemic. Some of these consultations have been with women who have known for years that their marriage was over, and the COVID lockdown has made them realize that they shouldn’t wait any longer. In some cases, men have become verbally or physically abusive under the strain of lockdown. In these situations, we agree that separation or divorce is appropriate. Other women, however, have come to us because they are sick of their husbands after too much time together. We advise these women to think again about the seriousness of divorce and the impact on the family.
Call Nathan Law Offices
Do not hesitate to contact our office for a consultation to determine if divorce is the right option for you at this time. We will walk you through the pros and cons and help you reach the right decision for you. These are difficult times for all of us, but we continue to offer sound, reasonable advice to women who are unhappy in their marriage. Fill out our contact form or call our office today. We are here for you.